Becoming mindful, looking into what might lie behind some impulse to act, or not to act, I can begin to see the causes, subtle and blatant, for acting out of fear.
Do I do, or not do, something because I am afraid of another's reaction? Do I do or not do something because it triggers hurtful, painful memories? What's going on? Can I become present, using the breath as an anchor, and pay attention to the arising of thoughts, feelings, and actions?
When I become mindful and pay attention, and note some fear behind some thought or impetus to act, or not act, I simply note: "fear." And then, I with that gentle touch, I come back to the breath, smile, and welcome the presence... of presence.
Note, perhaps, also, "aversion," and come back to the breath. Aversion is as much a "stuck" place as "clinging" is, though they might seem to be opposites. We can define a fearful self with what we are adverse to as much as by what we cling to. No matter! Just pay attention, note, "aversion," note "fear," and sometimes, yes, note "monsters," and gently come back to the breath, smile to yourself, and return to presence, or sati, as the Buddhist terms it.
Whatever we decide to take note of, the big thing is to have a "safe place" one can return to again and again, and for me, and many in the dharma, that safe place is the breath as an *anchor* for something even bigger and more profound -- attention, mindfulness, *presence* itself. (People sometimes must think Buddhists are "Breathologists," with all the emphasis on the breath! But actually, the breath is merely a kind of reference point, an anchor, a re-orienting place, a finger pointing at the big "moon" of presence, openness, sensitivity, itself.)
I hope these ideas from my practice today are helpful to you, and that they encourge you to look into fear -- or any other abiding subtle or blatant presence or mental state -- in order to "unbind" and to breathe into, relax into, being itself, which is really quite fine and happy and at peace, just as it is. And that's the ground, the meeting place, the true home, of you, and me, and all of us.