What is possible, however, is to let the emotions wash through me, and in so doing, wash the controlling part of me away with them. If I can really open to the actual texture and quality of a feeling, instead of trying to control it or churn out story lines from it, 'I'—the activity of trying to hold myself together—can dissolve into 'it'—the larger feeling and process itself.
If I fully become my sadness, it may intensify for a while, and I may feel the full painfulness of it. Yet really letting myself the pain and letting myself dissolve into it wakes me up to the feeling of being alive. Emotions, we could say, are the blood shed by the ego—they start to flow whenever we are touched, whenever the shell around the heart is punctured. Trying to control them is trying to keep the shell from cracking. Letting the ego bleed, on the other hand, opens the heart."
from "Befriending Emotion" in
Awakening the Heart: East/West Approaches to Psychotheraphy and the the Healing Relationship
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