In other words, there is always a gap, an obstacle, impeding the union desire seeks. This obstacle seems like a problem, and we want to get rid of it. This is clinging. I propose that if you relate to desire in a different way—if you learn how to simply dwell in the gap it opens up—then desire can become a teacher in its own right. In practical terms, this means learning to desire without expectations."
Excerpt from an interview with Mark Epstein
Read the full interview with Mark Epstein at Tricycle magazine here:
In Defense of Desire
I also highly recommend Epstein's book:
Open to Desire—Insights from Buddhism and Psychotherapy
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